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Choose Joy in Motherhood

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mother holding child overhead. both are looking at each other and smiling.
Motherhood is so challenging, and when you think you’re getting it down, your children find new ways to drive you to the brink of sanity. When things don’t go right, our gut reactions are always negative. We get angry, irritated, frustrated, and even resentful. You’ve seen Inside Out, right? Anger is so quick to flip his switch, but who is always there in the background to soothe him? Who is there reminding him of the good? Joy. Joy is always present in our lives, we have to choose to see it, and that’s not easy.

Choosing joy in motherhood is hard, but worth it.

Not too long ago as we were driving onto post for a checkup, both kids were simultaneously losing their minds. I mean both of them were screaming and crying at the top of their lungs, it was awful. As the military policeman checked my ID and waved me on, he looked at me and said, “I bet your heart is so full.” I completely lost it. This man chose to see joy in my screaming children. I’m not sure how or why, but he saw good in that moment. And I wondered, why couldn’t I?
Picture the last time you were happy. Close your eyes and remember where you were, who you were with, and what made you so happy. Can you picture it? You feel that happy moment all over again, aren’t you? If you could feel like that once a day (or more!) with a little work, would you do it?

What Happens when You Don’t Choose Joy

I asked myself those same questions, and of course, I said yes! I had been continuously feeling irritated with my kids, frustrated with my husband, and stressed beyond measure. One evening right after my husband got home, I was making dinner. Our preschooler started whining about what was on the TV for the thousandth time, and I snapped. I lost it. I lashed out, and in two sentences I managed to crush my daughter completely.
 
The truth is, that day was hard. I was at my breaking point. We all have those days, sometimes more of them than we’d like to admit. But at that moment, knowing I had made my daughter cry (again), something needed to change.
 
I knew I needed a drastic change, a total perception shift. When something doesn’t go the way we expected to, our gut reaction is usually negative. It’s instinctive. I knew I couldn’t be happy and joyous and never, ever get irritated with my kids; I’m not built that way. But I knew there had to be a middle ground.
 
As moms, we get angry, irritated, frustrated, and even resentful. There is joy in motherhood. Sharing my best tip to find joy in daily life.

How to Find Joy in Motherhood

I started by challenging myself to see the good twice a day. Twice doesn’t seem like much, but when you’ve regularly been angry and irritable, twice a day was hard. I had to fight to for those two moments of joy. After a few weeks, it got more natural, and I started to notice that not only was I less angry and irritable, but I was also less stressed. Happiness decreases stress. Who knew?!
 
After a few months of choosing to see joy, I was finding it more often, and it wasn’t as much work to find. As a result, I became more present during the day. I enjoyed playing silly games with my kids.
 
One afternoon as we were playing kitchen, I remember my daughter laughing. At the right moment, I looked at her as the sun was coming through the window in the playroom. It was beautiful. Breathtaking even.
 

Choosing Joy in Motherhood is Worth it!

I would’ve completely missed that a few months ago because I would’ve been so absorbed in how terrible it was to play the same thing, in the same way for the 50th day in a row. I wonder if there are other little moments I missed over the years.
 
Making the conscious choice to see the joy is hard. It’s so challenging to shift your perception. It will take a lot of practice; with a few doses of intermittent failure. But I promise you; it’s worth the work. It’s so rewarding to immediately see how happy your child is to be covered in dirt and playing instead of getting irritated by them for needing to be cleaned up. Your kids will notice a difference in your reaction.

 

They’re worth the work, but you already know that, don’t you? Try to see the joy for one week. One. I promise you’ll feel a difference. What do you have to lose?

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Until Next time! Chrissie

As moms, we get angry, irritated, frustrated, and even resentful. There is joy in motherhood. Sharing my best tip to find joy in daily life.

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    2 thoughts on “Choose Joy in Motherhood”

    1. Thank you, Chrissie, for a great post! I like your action step to stop and find the joy every day. I am going to put it into practice.

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