When was the last time you did something that was just for you? I’m not talking about going to the grocery store alone. I mean, really did something that fed your soul and left you feeling refreshed and energized? Chances are it was far too long ago; so long ago you may not even remember what or when it was. I’ve found that having a list of free self-care at home activities has helped tremendously!
Far too often we think that self-care has to be expensive or involve hours away from our kids, and that’s not the case. Half the reason we don’t practice self-care as often as we should is that we overthink it. Here are six ways to practice self-care at home that are 100% free.
Not sure what self-care is? Try reading What is Self-Care Anyway.
Six Ideas for Free Self-Care at Home
Take 3 deep breaths
Seems too simple, right? Three deep breaths. You know those days where you can’t catch a break, and you’re at the end of your rope? Put the kids in a safe place, go to a quiet room, close your eyes, and take three long, deep, breaths. This small pause is enough for me to reset and refocus. There might be days where I need to do it several times throughout the day, but it does help in those moments where you feel like you’re going to lose it.
Unplug for an hour
Social media and TV can be completely overwhelming and overstimulating. Most folks post their highlights on social media, and sometimes, that’s not helpful in the least. The constant comparison to other people is an easy way to forget what makes you remarkable. Put your phone on do not disturb, turn off the TV, and read a book. Or go for a walk. Bake some cookies with the kids. Do something you enjoy for an hour without looking at a screen. If your partner is home, try a bath with a bath bomb and a glass of wine. Whatever you feel you need, do it.
Stay in your PJ’s all day
If you find yourself needing to get dressed or look somewhat put together, try staying in your PJ’s all day. Heck, make an ‘it’s PJ DAY’ celebration at your house and hype it up with the kids. Stay on the couch, watch some movies, eat popcorn. Enjoy not doing anything or going anywhere. It’s surprising how relaxing choosing to wear your PJ’s all day can be.
Get super dressed up and fancy for no reason
Ok, I told you to stay in your PJ’s all day, and now I’m suggesting to get all gussied up. Seems like an oxymoron, right? Well. If you’ve had several days (or weeks) where you’ve felt like you’re in a slump, always wearing leggings and nursing tanks, give this a shot. I tried it for the first time a few weeks ago, and my goodness how it nourished my soul. I put on a full face of makeup, put on a cute outfit, and took the kids to Target. We had a blast and- for once- I enjoyed going out in public with two kids. Even my husband commented on my mood!
Unfollow toxic people on social media
Remember when we talked about unplugging for an hour? This can be as soothing. If there are people you see pictures or posts from that irk you for whatever reason, unfollow them. You don’t have to unfriend, but you can choose not to have that person pop up in your newsfeed. I can’t tell you how much more I enjoy getting on social media knowing that I won’t see those posts from that person. I’ll bet you can list at least 5 people you’d unfollow right now.
List 10 things you’re grateful for
If this seems like an easy one, it’s not. Sitting down and writing 10 things that you’re grateful for is hard. Especially on days when you’re worn down. It takes me longer than I’d like to admit to getting a full list of ten things. But once I finish it, I read it and explain to myself why I’m grateful for each item on the list. It’s an easy way to start noticing all the little things. It helps me to find the joy sometimes.
Want to read more about choosing joy? Check out Choose Joy in Motherhood.
When we overcomplicate self-care, we give ourselves an excuse for why we can’t do it regularly. Having a small list of ways to practice self-care at home will help you get over those excuses. I challenge you to try one or two things from the list this week. Which ones will you try?